55.9 F
Toledo
Saturday, May 31, 2025

Subscribe

Home Blog Page 2

Q&A: Natalie R./Emotions Anonymous

0
(Stock Image/Tima Miroshnichenko/Pexels)
The Toledo Free Press recently spoke with Natalie R., founder of the Toledo Ohio Area Chapter of Emotions Anonymous (EA). In keeping with the 12-step program's dedication to the anonymity of its members, we are using only her first name for this story.

You may have heard of Emotions Anonymous and wondered what the organization was about, if it could help you, or perhaps you’ve never heard of it. To help inform the public about EA, the TFP conducted a Q&A with Natalie to answer some of the most commonly asked questions.

C.A. Matthews: What is Emotions Anonymous?

Emotions Anonymous—or EA as it’s most widely known—is a nonprofit support group that meets weekly to work together toward obtaining better emotional health and dealing with emotions in daily life. We use the 12 Steps and the 12 Traditions and other tools to help us maintain our emotional health. EA is available to anyone who wants to get well emotionally.

The Emotions Anonymous program focuses on the different types of emotions and dealing with emotional health. We learn how to understand our emotions and recognize them with the support from others. We also learn how to have healthy relationships moving forward.

What do you mean by the 12 Steps?

The 12 Steps of Emotions Anonymous can be found online at emotionsanonymous.org.

We use the 12 Steps and 12 Traditions of Alcoholics Anonymous, which EA has adapted for use with people who are dealing with emotional problems. We use the 12 Steps as a guide to maintain emotional health. By practicing the steps on a daily basis, the goal is to see progress, one day at a time. Our working the steps does not have to be perfect. What matters is that you are trying and working to the best of your ability.

Who is welcome at an Emotions Anonymous meeting?

Anyone who wants to work towards becoming mentally healthy to the best of their ability is welcome.

I’ve been experiencing some emotional turmoil lately. Can EA help me?

The guidance you receive from the EA 12 Step program and the tools offered should help you gain some understanding of what’s happening and where you can turn to. What is discussed at a particular meeting might not seem relevant to your situation currently, but what is discussed next time very well could be. We suggest you attend several meetings to see how the program works.

Is EA really anonymous?

We are an open-minded group that practices love and acceptance for those who want to work toward maintaining and achieving better emotional health. We operate on a first-name basis only in the group. We will honor your anonymity. Our program allows participants to share anything with the group and know that it stays there and remains confidential.

Does EA cost anything?

We are a nonprofit program that fully relies on donations to the group to help us continue to thrive and be able to help others get well emotionally. So, no, there’s no cost to attend a meeting.

Will my mental health care team mind that I attend EA meetings?

If you choose to notify them that you are attending an emotional support group, they should be supportive and happy that you are working on achieving better mental health.

How can I get in touch with a local group?

Go to the EA website to find a group, either a local in-person, online or by phone meeting that fits your schedule. If you are unable to find an EA group meeting nearby, you could start a group in your area. EA will be happy to find you a mentor and help you set one up.

How did you begin your current EA group?

In 2017, my husband and I were attending another EA group, but I was looking for something that was closer to our home and a better schedule fit. After a very deep, heartfelt prayer with my Higher Power, I felt a need and calling to start a group located in the Toledo area.

The Toledo Ohio Area Chapter of Emotions Anonymous started with a core group of four attendees. As awareness of our group spread, we grew. Currently, we have a weekly meeting with about seven to twelve people on Thursday evenings.

What is amazing to me is to see not only how far I’ve come along on in my journey, but that we all are learning to understand the process of the EA program and how it works if you work it. I cannot stress enough that there are many resources that EA has to offer you on your journey to emotional wellness.

You do not struggle alone. You are among others who have been where you are. There is help available.

All you have to do is to reach out and take the first, biggest, hardest step and attend your first meeting. Seriously, you won’t regret it. Looking back, you will see that it’s the little steps that matter in your new direction moving forward. It’s okay if you take a step back, too. You will get to where you want to be in this program, and you will have others there to help you along the journey.

Inside Toledo City Council: May 20

0
Chris Baker, an American Institute of Architects (AIA) Toledo associate member, addresses Toledo City Council with high school students. The students were recognized for their architectural designs during the 75th Annual AIA High School Design Competition. (TFP Photo/Stephen Zenner)
Inside Toledo City Council is a new ongoing Toledo Free Press series that highlights notable resolutions, appointments, ordinances and resolutions made by up to a 12-member council. The meetings are held on Tuesdays in council chambers. Starting next week, the Toledo Free Press will publish Inside Toledo City Council on Fridays.

TOLEDO – The fate of over $21 million was decided on Tuesday in the 90 minutes that encompassed this week’s Toledo City Council meeting, held at 4 p.m. at 1 Government Center. 

> Thirty items were on the planned agenda, with another added motion to terminate a legislative administrator for the City of Toledo, Ricky Verret

In a 6-3 vote, council members Theresa Morris (District 6), Vanice Williams (District 4) and John Hobbs III (District 1) voted against the motion. It was one vote shy of the seven votes needed to terminate Verret. 

Morris said she understood the work of a legislative administrator, as she had worked as one for 27 years. She said she voted against Verret’s termination because she had worked positively with him before, albeit years ago. 

“At the end of the day, he was very effective with the train legislation,” Morris said of Verret’s contribution to her legislative goals. 

Among others, Theresa Gadus, council member for District 3, voted for Verret’s termination, but would not say why. 

> The first resolution to the council meeting was a recognition for local high schoolers who had won their respective brackets in the 75th American Institute of Architecture (AIA) High School Design Competition. 

Council Member Adam Martinez (District 2) lauded the work of the students. “I’m a real estate developer, and I can assure you, I would take any of those plans and put them against any of our architects.” 

Chris Baker, an American Institute of Architects (AIA) Toledo associate member [in blue], stands with high school students as they are recognized for their architectural designs during the 75th Annual AIA High School Design Competition. (TFP Photo/Stephen Zenner)
Ilya Prytup, a senior from Perrysburg High School, looks at other students’ architectural mockups in the lobby of 1 Government Center. The mockups were made by area high schoolers for 75th annual American Institute of Architects High School Design Competition. Prytup’s design is seen in the photo behind the one he’s looking at. (TFP Photo/Stephen Zenner)

> Resolution 199-25 honored Toledo’s very first Fire & Rescue paramedics from 1975.

Allan Janney, center, a retired EMS captain for Toledo Fire & Rescue, and his colleagues address Toledo City Council. They were the first Toledo Fire Rescue Department paramedics honored during a Toledo City Council meeting. (TFP Photo/Stephen Zenner)

> Afterwards, an unimpeded volley of ordinances were passed unanimously from Toledo City Council, with one zoning exception (Gadus) dissenting without effect on its passage. 

In response to Ordinance 217-25, a zoning change at 815 Navarre Ave. from RD6 residential duplex zoning to CM-mixed commercial zoning, Gadus stated that “I received petitions from 162 East Toledoans that they did not want this in their neighborhood, and I represent their voice, and that is what they want. So I voted no.”

> Eight zoning changes were approved, including the zoning change to 815 Navarre Ave., two special use permits were issued, and about $21 million were allocated. 

> In his closing remarks, George Sarantou, council member at-large, addressed the issue of dogs barking. “I just want to thank the planning commission for doing the analysis study on the dog issues. It clearly is a problem that we’re having.

“So, I look forward to working with councilman Martinez and others to come up with a policy that is enforceable,” Sarantou said.

> In Gadus’ closing remarks for the session, she spoke about the issue of garbage in her district not getting picked up from the streets of Toledo. 

“I’ve always driven by my district quarterly,” she said. “I’ve noticed a lot of trash. Some people call them set-outs. Some people call them bulk pickups. But it’s in the tree lawn.

“I took it upon myself monthly to drive and count it [the bulk pickups]. And I’m trying to use that data with data in our system. Hopefully, I can get data from Republic and problem-shoot this, because I don’t think we should be paying $10 million to Republic if there are 700 piles of trash in one district.”

According to her own records, Gadus reported 592 piles of garbage in March, 620 in April (with 160 piles of garbage left over from March to April), and 699 piles of garbage so far in May. 

“Obviously, there’s a breakdown somewhere, and my neighbors are the ones that’s bearing the brunt of this breakdown,” she said, but added that she didn’t have enough data yet to figure out who is to blame for bulk pickup remaining in people’s yards.

> Council members Sam Melden (District 5), Cerssandra McPherson (At-Large), and Brittany Jones (At-Large) were absent from the meeting.

Council member Nick Komives converses with a citizen during the council meeting. (TFP Photo/Stephen Zenner)

Norma Ramos-Prater: Victim advocate for the people

0

TOLEDO – Sparsely populated with furniture bolted to the floor and a grayscale palette, the waiting room for the Domestic Relations Court at 429 N. Michigan St. is quiet.

Attorneys speak privately with their clients in soundproof rooms with glass dividers, while others sit in silence, waiting to go before the court. 

Present in the sea of waiting is the woman Norma Ramos-Prater came to see. Ramos-Prater, the Hispanic Latino outreach coordinator for the Lucas County Prosecutor’s Office, embraces the woman with a smile, holds her hand and admires her nails.

Norma Ramos-Prater admires the nails of a client she met in Domestic Relations Court on April 1. (TFP Photo/Stephen Zenner)

“She’s shaking,” Ramos-Prater says, squeezing her hand as a few tears escape the young woman’s eyes. The two of them almost have the same uniform – black dresses, braided hair and grave expressions.

The young woman, whose identity is best left unknown, is seeking a divorce and alleging domestic violence. Ramos-Prater is there to translate, provide emotional support and guide the woman through the process.  

On the other side of the room, the woman’s husband is visible, also waiting, but then the judge moves the court date back to reconvene at another time. 

The victim’s advocate role within the Victim Assistance Program has been around for a number of years. In 1984, Ohio passed the State Victims Assistance Act (SVAA) in coordination with the federal Victims of Crime Act (VOCA), which set aside funding and resources to help people who have had crimes perpetrated against them.

Norma Ramos-Prater sits in her office inside the Sofia Quintero Art & Cultural Center in Toledo on Tuesday April 1, 2025. Ramos-Prater chose to setup her office in the Sofia Quintero Art & Cultural Center to be more approachable to the community she serves. (TFP Photo/Stephen Zenner)

“The work those men and women do at the prosecutor’s office is nothing less than God’s work,” said Matt Cherry, who learned firsthand how important that work is when he was assisted during a court case by Joan Coleman, a strong leader in Lucas County victim’s advocacy, who died in 2023 at the age of 91.

After an altercation at a party, Cherry, then 16 years old, and one of his friends decided to leave the gathering when “the individual who was throwing the house party ran off his front porch and unloaded on our vehicle. Unfortunately, my best friend didn’t make it.”

With a bullet to his leg, Cherry, now 45, was able to physically heal, but said reliving the experience in court was “devastating.”  

Vera Sanders, director of Victim Services for the Lucas County Prosecutor’s Office, spoke from her 28 years of experience, and described the judicial process as “not victim friendly. A lot of the victims don’t understand how to maneuver or how to get through the criminal justice process without that [victim] advocate being there to help.”

Sanders attributed part of the difficulty with of the judicial process to the necessary investigative nature of fair trials. 

“It is set up as innocent until proven guilty, and so the defendants have to have rights,” she said, and this means victims may have to relive much of the worst moments of their lives as courts come to their own conclusions. 

The other difficulty for victims is understanding and trusting the process involved with the judiciary, a hard task for anyone who isn’t trained in court processes.  

“She was there and able to explain things to me and able to console me in a way that was different than what my parents and my family could do because she knew what the events were going to be,” Cherry said of Coleman. “And she knew others that went through the exact same thing I did.”

Unfortunately, not all communities or individuals report crimes, and the Latino community has suffered disproportionately due to a declining trust in law enforcement. 

A 2013 survey of Latino populations across counties in California, Illinois, Arizona and Texas showed 70 percent of undocumented immigrants were less likely to report being a victim of a crime than other victims.

“They have the same rights as any human being has,” Ramos-Prater said. “And that’s one of the things that I try to educate everyone that comes to me, to let them know they have rights.”

An article in the Journal of Social Work, also published in 2013, found that the entire Latino population had a declining trust in law enforcement, regardless of immigration status or citizenship.

In an attempt to bridge trust, specifically with the Latino population in Toledo, the Lucas County Prosecutor’s Office, led by Julia Bates, curated Ramos-Prater’s position as the Hispanic Latino Outreach coordinator, a specialized victim’s advocate position designed to help victims who are apt to slip through the cracks within the justice system. 

Norma Ramos-Prater receives an award from the City of Toledo during the State of the City Address at Tower on the Maumee’s 13th floor in downtown Toledo on March 5. (TFP Photo/Stephen Zenner)

Sanders lauded Ramos-Prater for her work as an advocate and for her ability to reach people.

“She’s actually a lifesaver for that community. There’s nowhere in the Latino community that they’re just not raving about what Norma has done and what she means to that community.”

Traditionally, victim’s advocates are tied closely to the court process, but Ramos-Prater also makes herself visible through community events, teaching English and Spanish classes at a local South Toledo Church, and personally familiarizing herself with resources her clients may use in the future. 

We don’t trust. They need to see you involved in the community to trust. Sometimes they don’t even give you the right name.

Norma Ramos-Prater

For the past six years, Ramos-Prater has setup her office inside the Sofia Quintero Art & Cultural Center, located at 1225 Broadway St., to make herself available to the community in a less formal setting. 

Norma Ramos-Prater teaches English at St. Lucas Lutheran Church on Dec. 12, 2024. (TFP Photo/Stephen Zenner)

“To get the community involved, you have to get involved in the community,” said Theresa Johnson, an outreach coordinator for St. Lucas Lutheran Church, where Ramos-Prater teaches language classes. Just down the hall from the classes, attendees can also benefit from a free lunch program, free blankets, bookbags, personal hygiene kits, a food pantry, a second-hand store and an Alcoholics Anonymous group. 

According to Ramos-Prater, a victim’s main challenges are childcare, language and transportation difficulties, and she does “a little bit of everything,” sometimes beyond victim relief because “the need is so much.”

A woman Ramos-Prater has been helping for years, Mercedes Aguirre, an American citizen living in South Toledo, had problems getting her daughter the medical attention she needed. 

Norma Ramos-Prater looks over scheduling details with Mercedes Aguirre in Aguirre’s South Toledo home on April 1. Ramos-Prater coordinates (TARTA) schedules for Aguirre’s daughter. (TFP Photo/Stephen Zenner)
Mercedes Aguirre shows a picture of her daughter, Sofia, 15, as Norma Ramos-Prater looks over scheduling details for public transportation. (TFP Photo/Stephen Zenner)

“I referred them to the board of disability many years ago,” Ramos-Prater said. 

Aguirre’s 15-year-old daughter had complications with a chronic condition and needed help coordinating transportation through the Toledo Area Regional Transit Authority (TARTA), as well as translation for the doctor.  

It is small gestures like these, where Ramos-Prater is willing to meet everyday people where they are, in their homes if necessary, and connect them with an array of resources that builds trust within the South Toledo community. 

And to keep that trust Ramos-Prater does her homework before she recommends a service or a group to her clients. 

“I have to find out which agencies provide services to them, [and] if they are Spanish speaking,” and then, “I act like I’m the one [getting services] to make sure that my victims are not victimized again.

“I went through that free clinic to see how they treated them. And now I know that my victims will get medical treatment at the free clinic and they’re going to be treated properly.”

This is especially important for victims of domestic violence. Ramos-Prater often discovers domestic violence situations tangentially, when an individual needs help with some other service.

Ramos-Prater recalled telling a woman facing domestic violence that she had the right to have a protection order.

“A lot of women don’t know that. They don’t know that they have those rights. Nobody has the right to abuse them.”

The Latino Outreach coordinator is a valued position, and for the moment, is secure for the immediate future. Part of what allows the program to have this added security is diversified funding sources by local, state and federal entities. 

40 percent of federal VOCA funds are on the chopping block. $140,000 was set for this last year, and the upcoming year is looking to have that $140,000 shaved down to $84,000. 

Regardless, Ramos-Prater has not been phased by the changes in government, “We’re gonna’ keep pushing forward,” she told the Toledo Free Press. “Our office is gonna’ help victims of crime.”

Norma Ramos-Prater, the Hispanic-Latino outreach coordinator for the Toledo-Lucas County Victim Witness Assistance Program, meets with a client at Domestic Relations Court. Ramos-Prater specializes in helping victims of crimes, regardless of their immigration status. (TFP Photo/Stephen Zenner)

NBC’s ‘The Paper’ inspired by Toledo newsrooms

0
Stephen Gullette, marketing and social media specialist for JŪPMODE, points out designs NBC requested to use in their new show, The Paper. About a year ago, Gullette was in correspondence with NBC, who used JŪPMODE designs to create the set for the new sequel to the 2000’s hit The Office.

TOLEDO – A new spinoff to the beloved sitcom The Office was announced this month by NBCUniversal, and it’s gearing up for its first season debut on Peacock in September. 

The new series, called The Paper, is the successor to producer Greg Daniels’ signature mockumentary style, but the location has now moved on from the Electric City (Scranton, Penn.) to the Glass City for a story centered around local journalism. 

During the search for the location, FilmToledo was told the production had toured a number of different Midwest newsrooms to find a home for the new show, but was not definitively told Toledo would be the chosen location.

According to cleveland.com, “Editor Chris Quinn [of cleveland.com/The Plain Dealer] disclosed that producers of The Paper had approached his organization about getting Cleveland materials for use in the mockumentary series.” He told NBC “no.”

In short, “We were not going to be the subject of buffoonery,” Quinn said. 

For now, it’s uncertain how far the search for a new location went, but production for The Paper started reaching out to a variety of Toledo fixtures in spring 2024, starting with the Toledo Regional Chamber of Commerce, who directed the sitcom team towards FilmToledo.

“It was really like an educational session for them, because they really didn’t know Toledo too well, but they really wanted to get it right,” said Michael DeSanto, executive director of FilmToledo.

Michael DeSanto. (TFP Photo/Stephen Zenner)

“At the time, we didn’t know that it was called The Paper. We knew it was connected with The Office, being written and produced by Greg Daniels and his team. But obviously, they couldn’t go into too much detail, but we already had a pretty good idea of what the project was about.

“Most of their work was done last year,” DeSanto said. “But they had gone into the [Toledo] City Paper and The Blade [for] a little bit for research, and from what we’ve heard, they did pop in to film a couple things.”

Riley Runnells was the editor of the Toledo City Paper at the time, and she got to meet one of her favorite actors during NBC’s fact-finding tour of Ohio’s fourth largest city.

“It was actually very random,” Runnells said. “It was presented to me via email that they [NBC] were researching for a show that they were putting together, and it was going to be about journalists in the Midwest.

“They came across my work online, and they wanted to shadow me, or they wanted to have their actor come in and shadow me for a day to see the logistics of running a newsroom.”

Domhnall Gleeson, the lead for the new NBC show, The Paper, shadows and interacts with Riley Runnells, then the editor for the Toledo City Paper, at the Toledo City Paper office in Downtown Toledo, Ohio on June 12, 2024.

To Runnells’ surprise, Domnhall Gleeson, the lead in the 2013 movie About Time and the new lead for The Paper, showed up on the Toledo City Paper’s doorstep without any sort of entourage. 

“I am a very, very big fan of his,” Runnells admitted. “I was expecting, you know, maybe a writer or a producer or somebody from the show to come in, but I did not expect the lead actor to come in. It was so exciting.”

Runnells went through her day as normally as she could, considering a famous actor following her, and then spent at least two hours giving Gleeson an in-depth understanding of the relationship she had with her newsroom. 

Michael Koman, one of the show-runners for the show, reportedly visited The Blade, according to Runnells. 

More vaguely, DeSanto also mentioned that NBC visited The Blade, Toledo’s oldest newsroom, although this visit seemed to happen before FilmToledo or the Toledo City Paper were aware of the project, according to a Blade article. It states, “Kim Bates, executive editor of The Blade, said writers for the show were at The Blade in December 2023, during which time they spoke with a variety of newsroom employees.”

Gleeson’s visit to Toledo happened in June 2024, so that may be an indication of what kind of newsroom is represented in The Paper

No one except the NBC execs will truly know what The Paper will be like until it releases, but Runnells did not share cleveland.com‘s fears of being the butt of a joke. 

“I think it shows a great deal of maturity to be able to laugh at yourself,” she said. “I’m certain that there will be some shots taken at the community, but I think what really makes that okay and what will make that funny is that they will also have a lot of really heartfelt moments regarding Toledo.

“There’s definitely going to be that pride for the local element, because you can’t have a show about a local newspaper and not have at least some of the characters be really passionate about where we’re living.”

One of the original cast members, Oscar Nuñez, who played the accountant Oscar Martinez on The Office, serves as a throughline between the two shows; he was reported to have told The Hollywood Reporter that he wanted the show to take place in a more cosmopolitan setting. 

“Greg heard me and moved Oscar to Toledo, Ohio, which has three times the population of Scranton,” Nuñez said. “So it’s nice to be heard.”

A single still photograph has been released from the show, with lead actor Gleeson appearing to stand on top of a desk, and is presumed to be the newsroom for the Toledo Truth Teller, serving as an early glimpse into what will come out in the fall. 

The set looks similar to that of The Office, with a few different set choices, as Toledo’s own JŪPMODE noticed. 

Stephen Gullette, 29, the marketing and social media specialist for JŪPMODE. (TFP Photo/Stephen Zenner)

“You can see it in the bottom right corner. It’s blurry, but that was cool,” said Stephen Gullette, the marketing and social media specialist for JŪPMODE, as he pointed to one of the JŪPMODE designed mugs visible in a shared photo of the show’s upcoming production.

“I noticed it this morning,” he said the day after NBCUniversal announced the show. 

“They had searched on our website a couple of items they wanted,” and asked him if they could use those items for the show. “I’m excited. We were talking this morning about how they might portray it [Toledo].” 

Gullette said he was a bit worried about Toledo getting a portrayal like the one on the Netflix show A.P. Bio, which he said took a number of jabs at the city. Undeniably, he said, the show will poke fun at Toledo, but hopefully, “nothing too serious.” 

However, JŪPMODE’s retail art director, Shannon Mossing, who designed much of the Toledo specific merchandise the studio chose, said it was exciting and she was honored to have her designs in the show which represented Toledo. 

Another Toledo businesses contacted by the studio was local coffeeshop Black Kite, whose general manager, Emerson Dupont, said, “I gave them a bunch of cups,” for reference. 

The Toledo Free Press was not contacted by the show because it wasn’t in operation yet. The TFP website didn’t officially go live until August 2024, months after Gleeson’s visit.

Either way, it’s clear there will be at least an attempt to portray Toledo in a genuine way, served up alongside a tongue-in-cheek snapshot of the floundering print local news industry. 

You might see these JŪPMODE products on the show, The Paper, when it debuts in September. (TFP Photo/Stephen Zenner)

Young birders club leads field trip

0

OAK HARBOR— When the Ohio Young Birders Club (OYBC) led a free youth field trip May 17 at Magee Marsh Wildlife Area, the Toledo Free Press was on hand to chat with some of the youngest birders in attendance at the Biggest Week in American Birding.

The mission of OYBC, a program of Black Swamp Bird Observatory (BSBO), is to encourage, educate and empower youth conservation leaders. Members participate in field trips and service projects and present an annual conference.

Some of the birds the youth spotted on their hike included a bald eagle on its nest, a common nighthawk, a mourning warbler, Baltimore orioles, yellow warblers and warbling vireos.

Students were accompanied by several adults, including Jamie Cunningham, education director and statewide coordinator for OYBC, and Kenn Kaufman, renowned birding expert behind the Kaufman Field Guide series. Kaufman said he was there to lend support and answer questions while the young people took the lead. 

Kaufman is married to Kimberly Kaufman, executive director of BSBO, who played a key role in starting the OYBC in 2006 after a few young people came to BSBO staff searching for a youth birding organization. When they couldn’t find one, they decided to create one.

“Rather than try to tell the kids what the club would do, we just asked, what would you like this club to be?” recalled Kenn Kaufman. “So, they named it; they came up with the ideas for the programs.”  

At the first annual conference, Kaufman said all the speakers, including the keynote, were under the age of 20.

“And so it’s been a principle of the Ohio Young Birders Club ever since that it’s an organization where the young people can shine,” he noted. “It’s not adults taking kids around and lecturing to them.”

The OYBC has become a model for youth birding programs around the country, with BSBO staff helping to create similar programs in more than 20 states and two other countries. The group offered two free field trips for birders under the age of 18 during this year’s Biggest Week in American Birding, the festival organized by the BSBO.

Don Lee: Tangle Free

0